I just read a compelling article on how women subtly undermine their leadership position in the workplace. Let’s assume that this information is valid, that women do send body language clues in the workplace that signal lack of confidence or incompetence.
The big question is, how should we respond to these facts. Should women just try to change their behaviours and behave more like men? Or should we try to change men to understand and accept women’s different behaviours?
Neither of these solutions is particularly appealing. Having women behave more like men seems a bit self-defeating, as both women and men don’t seem to like more aggressive women. Trying to change men? Impossible.
My viewpoint? Be aware of how you are perceived by others by asking them. Figure out what you are willing to change and what you aren’t willing to change. Accept that your choices might limit you in the workplace. Life isn’t fair. Get over it.